Leave a toxic relationship in 13 steps

Toxic relationships can cause irreparable damage to your psyche. The effects of a toxic relationship can be very crippling to the person's psyche as well as mental health.

The toxicity starts from the inside of the relationship. The toxicity may be emotional, psychological or physical. Either way it is harmful.

First, prepare yourself mentally and then take actionable steps to break free.

People stuck in toxic relationships often find it hard to get out. This happens because they start seeing themselves as broken glass. You may need help from a psychologist, friends and family. Do not hesitate to get what you need. Remember, your family is there for you all you have to do is ask.

There is no excuse for physically abusing you. If you are stuck in a toxic relationship involving abuse, leave immediately.

Regaining the confidence that you are a free person and are free to make your own choices is hard when you are just getting out of a toxic relationship. You can take help from your friends and family and engage in activities you love to gain back the confidence.

If your partner is and knowingly hurting you. You should discuss it with him or her. Keep the discussion on neutral ground and seek help from a counsellor if needed.

If your partner wants to mend his or her ways and ensure a better future for the both of you, you can opt for couples counselling. However, if your partner refuses to accept the mistakes and blames you, these are signs that the relationship cannot be mended and you must get out.

You must decide whether you want to stay in the relationship to fix it, give your partner a second chance or leave the relationship.

If your partner is indicating that he or she wants to be better, you can opt for counselling. If your partner is blaming you for things going wrong in the relationship, leave your partner.

Once you leave, you may only remember the good parts. The bad part may not come to mind. Take a diary and write down all the bad part of the relationship and the reasons why you left your partner. When you feel like going back, look at the diary and remind yourself why you stayed away.

Toxic people manipulate others and destroy other’s confidence for their own gain. If you are healing from a toxic relationship, it is imperative that you work on your confidence levels. Go on a trip, go out with your friends and family, work on the things which make you feel happy, indulge in self-care et cetera. Get your confidence back.

This is even more important if your partner has hurt you physically. If you have any proof of your partner threatening you, store it as evidence. You can use this evidence to get a restraining order.

If you are a stay-at-home person, you need to have your own savings before you leave your partner. So start saving little by little every day.

If you have finally made the decision of leaving your partner and you see no other option of repairing the relationship, it is best to leave. If your partner is abusive, leave when he or she is not home and get a restraining order.

Refrain from calling, texting or communicating with your partner in anyway once you have left.

You owe it to yourself to give yourself time to heal. This may take weeks months or even years. But you owe this to yourself. So don’t try to fast forward the process. The pain will come and go. Eventually it will start feeding in the background.

Chances are that you got stuck in a toxic relationship because you put yourself in the backburner. This needs to change. Learn to love yourself and say no to others when needed.

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